Dear Hypothetically Gay Son,
You’re gay. Obviously you already know that, because you told us at the dinner table last night. I apologize for the awkward silence afterwards, but I was chewing. It was like when we’re at a restaurant and the waiter comes up mid-bite and asks how the meal is, only in this metaphor you are the waiter and instead of asking me about my meal you said you were gay. I don’t know why I needed to explain that. I think I needed to find a funny way to repeat the fact that you’re gay… because that is what it sounds like in my head right now. “My son is gay. My son is gay. My son is gay.”
Let me be perfectly clear. I love you. I will always love you. Since being gay is part of who you are, I love that you’re gay. I’m just trying to wrap my head around the idea. If you sensed any sadness in my silence last night, it was because I was surprised that I was surprised. Ideally, I would have already known. Since you were an embryo, my intent has always been to really know you for who you are and not who I expect you to be. And yet, I was taken by surprise at last night’s dinner. Have I said “surprise” enough in this paragraph? One more time… surprise!
OK. Let’s get a few things straight about how things are going to be.
Our home is a place of safety and love. The world has dealt you a difficult card. While LGBT people are becoming more accepted, it is still a difficult path to walk. You’re going to experience hate and anger and misunderstandings about who you are out in the world. That will not happen here. You need to know with every fiber of who you are that when you walk in the front door of your home you are safe and you are loved. Your mother is in complete agreement with me on this.
I am still, as always, your biggest defender. Just because you’re gay doesn’t mean you’re any less capable of taking care of/defending yourself. That said, if you need me to stand next to you, in front of you, write letters, sign petitions, advocate, or anything else, I am here. I will go to war for you.
If you’re going to have boys over, you now need to leave your bedroom door open. Sorry kiddo. Thems are the breaks. I couldn’t have girls in my room with the door shut, you don’t get to have boys.
You and I are going to revisit that talk we had about safe sex. I know it’s going to be awkward for both of us, but it is important. I need to do some research first, so let’s give it a few weeks. If you have questions or concerns before then, let me know.
That’s enough for now. Feel free to view this letter as a contract. If I ever fail to meet any of the commitments made herein, pull it out and hold me to account. I’ll end with this: You are not broken. You are whole, and beautiful. You are capable and compassionate. You and your sister are the best things I have ever done with my life, and I couldn’t be more proud of the people you’ve become.
P.S. Thanks to a few key Supreme Court decisions and the Marriage Equality act of 2020 you’re legally able to get married. When I was your age, that was just an idea. Pretty cool huh?" - Dear Hypothetically Gay Son | John Kinnear for Ask Your Dad (via littlegirlinwaiting)
FINALLY SOMEONE DISMISSES THESE AWFUL GAY STEREOTYPES
Adam and Luke Monastero don’t look much alike considering they are twin brothers. But they are alike in one very big way: both are gay.
The 21 year olds decided to break the news to their parents together live on their YouTube channel. The conversation takes place in the family kitchen where their father is sitting eating some jerk chicken.
'We are a little bit shocked and surprised,' says their mom. 'Are you sure? … Have you been with a girl?' Their mom admits she had long suspected curly-haired Luke was but is surprised to find out about clean-cut Adam.
'I've been denying myself for a long time and I think that's why we;ve had a bad relationship,' Adam says to his mom.
Although there are no tears and no hugs on the video, both parents make clear that their sons have got to live their own life.
Says their mom: ‘You can’t live your life for someone else … you guys have your own life to live. I’m just glad you’re not keeping it from us anymore.’ Their dad echoes her sentiments although it’s hard to make out what exactly he is saying since he never stops eating his chicken.
MOMMA WILL GIVE ADVICE.
ALWAYS REMEMBER: MENSTRUATING DOES NOT MAKE YOU BAD. IT DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE SICK. IT DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE DIRTY.
First of all, do not go swimming in the ocean to look for Momma.
Momma will be right here.
Momma suggests that at first sign of blood, take tylenol. If you are super in tune with your body, take it when you estimate it will start soon!
Momma knows EXACTLY what to do for cramps. Eating cranberries or drinking their juice is a wonderful way to get rid of cramps.
Another way to help with the pain is to rest on your bed like in the picture, butt in the air and head on the ground.
Also, if you do not like pads OR tampons, there are more solutions!
They are very similar to one another. They are basically soft, silicone cups that go up into your lady cave that collect the blood.The softcup is a bit more expensive.
Also, Momma says that if you want to have sex and not have gushing everywhere, you can use a softcup!
The mooncup is a lot like the softcup, but it is reusable. Momma will remind you that you MUST disinfect it in boiling water.
You can even use natural sea sponge like a tampon!
Momma says it’s okay.
There are also cotton reusable pads!
Momma is also thinking of you men that have periods, too!
There is a special kind of boxers that you can buy with a special pocket for sanitary products! It also comes with a bulge.
The most important thing to do, menstruating or not, is to love and respect yourself. Do not feel ashamed, and get through it as well as you can!
Momma loves you!
Thank you momma.
I imagine Momma having a really typical haggard old smoker’s voiceMOMMA’S ON MY OWN DASH WHAT THE HECKLE
WAIT HOLD THE PHONE THERE ARE OPTIONS OUTSIDE OF PADS AND TAMPONS???
can i just say i love how momma includes trans men?? and thank you momma for the advice <3
I love momma! Everyone should follow momma because her and the rest of the sea family give amazing advice
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I don’t think a greater truth has ever been spoken holy shit
religious people smh
Despite the name of our dynamic, it is not about incest and pedophilia. We have nothing to do with sugar daddies and sugar babies either. We’re not all bratty either, well maybe a little or just playing around…
There are a lot of girls who call themselves “Lo” or “Lolita” but in general our lifestyle has nothing to do with the novel. The novel’s controversy and negative connotations around the word “lolita” is probably what adds on to the misunderstanding about our lifestyle. While there are plenty of couples and vanilla folks who roleplay incest with people online or their partners, not all of us are like that and not all of us want not to be associated with that.
I don’t doubt that there are pedophiles and creepers in this dynamic that pray on young girls who call themselves littles (you’re part of the problem if you’re lying about your age and luring men to Kik you), but a lot of us do our best to shut those folks down and report their blog. None of us wants to see any minor abused or taken advantage of because someone can’t tell right from wrong and wants to live out their fantasy.
That’s the difference here, DD/lg is a safe way for partners to live out whatever sane fantasies they have. Fantasies themselves are harmless because they’re thoughts and thoughts cannot hurt others, it’s when we lack self control and judgement that they can become a problem. However, for example, me acting like a child around my Daddy doesn’t harm either of us or anyone else.
Before you judge people whom you don’t understand, it doesn’t hurt to educate yourself a bit before making those assumptions. You might learn something new and even find out that your first impression was wrong. :)
Edit: Excuse the fact that I misspelled “pedophiles” in one of the images. I’m so ashamed.
EVERYONE REBLOG LIKE RIGHT NOW