1,404 notes       September 01, 2014 @ 00:09       Via(Source)
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115 notes       August 27, 2014 @ 17:09       Via(Source)
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227 notes       August 27, 2014 @ 17:06       Via(Source)
How do you know if your sub truly can't take anymore? Do you use a safeword? Your subs are always gagged and heavily bound; how can you tell if they're trying to signal you?
Anonymous

alfredosian:

There’s actually a lot of communication going on during a session. A tiny part of it is verbal. Utterances like “oh, yeah”, “thank you, Sir”, “ouch!”, “fuck, Fuck, FUCK”, “stop, please stop”.

But the majority is non verbal. And for the most part not entirely under the sub’s conscious control, which can be more revealing. For example breathing pattern, sighs, moans, groans, screams, whimpers, their tone (satisfaction, frustration, pleading, …), pitch, loudness or periodicity, facial expressions (neutral, biting lips, gaping mouth, squinting eyes, …), movements (sudden or slow, deliberate or disorderly, in or out sync with the stimulation, …), posture (back arched, head raised, body twisted, …), strain against the bonds, pelvic movements, hand movements (grabbing at the sheets or restraints, hyper extended, making a fist, pumping, relaxed, …), toes (curling or wiggling), quality of erection (semi-hard, hard, rock hard), softening or hardening, balls hanging loose or tightening, involuntary muscle spasms, sweating, goose bumps, and so on.

Body language is a rich, nuanced, high bandwidth communication medium. It reveals pretty much all you want to know about the sub’s state of mind. Whether he’s anxious, relaxed, needs a short break, starts to reach his limits, is already past them, getting distracted, tired, eager for more, close to climax, … You just have to listen and, as a good sadist, use the information against him.

So, to answer your first question, it’s easy, the sub tells me. Just not with spoken words.

I usually play with a safeword. It’s a good tool to have in the tool box. But not one that I rely on, because as a Dom you can’t trust that a sub will safeword if / when needed. For a variety of reasons, some subs are not always psychologically capable of safewording in situations where they should. E.g.:

  • They want to please the Dom and feel that safewording would be letting him down.
  • They’re so deep in subspace that they may not even recall that there is a safeword.
  • They’re high on adrenalin and endorphin, which alters their perception of pain and assessment of the situation.

I use safewords in three forms:

  • A spoken word. Usually “red”.
  • Three short grunts.
  • A silent check. The sub must respond to a double hand squeeze with the same. Failure to do so stops the session.

All three can be used with most forms of bondage, including when gagged. Contrary to common conception, gags are good at garbling sounds, but remarkably ineffective at muffling them. I also like using gags that remain comfortable for several hours i.e. not the super sized tonsil tickling or jaw breaking kind. These gags provide enough freedom for short words like “red” or grunts to remain not only audible but also perfectly identifiable, while still rendering structured speech unintelligible and futile. This is a great way to stay safe, comfortable and reinforce the sub’s sense of helplessness, making him more submissive and helping him focus on the sensations.

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26,348 notes       August 25, 2014 @ 14:03       Via(Source)

"Just grab me, push me on the bed. Kiss me as you explore my body with your hands. Gently. Softly. Slowly. Increasing my heart rate. Kiss my neck and give me hickies in places where others won’t see. Scratch my back and pull my hair. Whisper in my ear how bad you want me." - Ars amandi ♥ the art of love. (via arsamandix)

#yes this please #bdsm
829 notes       August 24, 2014 @ 21:46       Via(Source)
kinkglutton:

She was curious about the Hitachi - not any more

kinkglutton:

She was curious about the Hitachi - not any more

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11,098 notes       August 24, 2014 @ 19:33       Via(Source)

femsubdenial:

sexxxisbeautiful:

yhivi:

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this is literally all the porn i need?

I love the casual warmth in this!

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42 notes       August 24, 2014 @ 17:26       Via(Source)
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55 notes       August 21, 2014 @ 21:12       Via(Source)
gaggedandtiedhard:

Hot Punishment Photos

gaggedandtiedhard:

Hot Punishment Photos

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4,126 notes       August 21, 2014 @ 19:26       Via(Source)

cant-stop-the-littles:

ddlgdoodles:

Despite the name of our dynamic, it is not about incest and pedophilia. We have nothing to do with sugar daddies and sugar babies either. We’re not all bratty either, well maybe a little or just playing around…

There are a lot of girls who call themselves “Lo” or “Lolita” but in general our lifestyle has nothing to do with the novel. The novel’s controversy and negative connotations around the word “lolita” is probably what adds on to the misunderstanding about our lifestyle. While there are plenty of couples and vanilla folks who roleplay incest with people online or their partners, not all of us are like that and not all of us want not to be associated with that.

I don’t doubt that there are pedophiles and creepers in this dynamic that pray on young girls who call themselves littles (you’re part of the problem if you’re lying about your age and luring men to Kik you), but a lot of us do our best to shut those folks down and report their blog. None of us wants to see any minor abused or taken advantage of because someone can’t tell right from wrong and wants to live out their fantasy.

That’s the difference here, DD/lg is a safe way for partners to live out whatever sane fantasies they have. Fantasies themselves are harmless because they’re thoughts and thoughts cannot hurt others, it’s when we lack self control and judgement that they can become a problem. However, for example, me acting like a child around my Daddy doesn’t harm either of us or anyone else.

Before you judge people whom you don’t understand, it doesn’t hurt to educate yourself a bit before making those assumptions. You might learn something new and even find out that your first impression was wrong. :)

Edit: Excuse the fact that I misspelled “pedophiles” in one of the images. I’m so ashamed.

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#sex positivity #bdsm